It’s hard to describe to others what postnatal depression feels like… An invisible weight you can’t lift. An insurmountable barrier between you and the rest of the world. A dark cloud hovering constantly overhead. An intense feeling of isolation, of incredible loneliness. A grey fog constantly blinding your way. An inability to just simply breathe. A loss of control sparking intense anxiety. A constant state of distress over what is real within you and what is not. A suffocating sense of helplessness. A crippling abandonment of all those you love the most. A fear of failure you wear every day… And so, so many other things.
On September 13th it was R U OK Day and a few days after I read a wonderful post at Heart Mama, called “Not very how” (written by Zanni Arnot). I was incredibly touched by Zanni’s approach to, and support for, the R U OK philosophy. So today, even though a month on, I thought I would share her post with you here. A summary of her key points though, if you don’t have time to read her post in full, are as follows:
Sometimes a question is all that is takes.
One day is all that it takes.
Sometimes a conversation is all that it takes.
Not everyone is so lucky.
You may not know someone is struggling, until you ask.
Let’s not wait for a specific day to care about those around us. Let’s make sure we do it EVERY day. Even if someone doesn’t feel like sharing at the time, trust me, the thought and knowledge that you care about them may be all that’s required to get them through the next minute, hour, day, or week.
Please don’t underestimate the difference you can make.
Until next time, take care.